Are you feeling a bit lost?
I’m not sure who I am or what I enjoy anymore…


We live in a society where there is no shortage of answers.  We can download the app, sign up for that virtual class, or read the book… for pretty much anything we need help with.  But this just furthers the space between you and your stories.

I believe that unpacking your life story can set you free.

Psychologists and researchers have known for years that it’s the unpacking of life stories that can bring clarity, growth, and healing to our lives. The human mind is full of biases, defaults, and it likes to follow established paths. But we can disrupt it. If you are open to looking back at your life experiences, you can tease them apart to find new understanding and ways of being in the present. Maybe things aren’t what you believe them to be…

Remembering is a journey the heart takes
– Anonymous –



The Search for Self is a private website filled with materials to explore your life story. Go in when you have time for it, choose what interests you, and see where it leads. Everything is short and sweet, but intentionally crafted to get you thinking and trying something new. There are a variety of writing activities to spark memories. Reflective prompts will guide you to delve deeper into your life experiences to gain insights. The Search for Self is a place to learn more about yourself with the goal of feeling more grounded, healthy, and whole.

Your story has much to teach you if you are willing to go there…

I don’t have time to explore my life stories,
my days already feel like a blur

Between balancing work, home, your partner, kids… spending time on you probably doesn’t happen.  Or if it does, you likely feel guilty about it. But you’re feeling stretched, tired, and like a version of yourself that you don’t even recognize anymore.  On the surface, everyone thinks you’re doing great, but you know different. You know that you have some deeper work to do. You just need a place to start that feels do-able.


here’s how it works…

  • access new materials added monthly to our private website (creative activities, writing prompts, excerpts from books, articles, talks… all paired with reflective prompts). Monthly collections are based on central themes related to the human experience: time, roots, beginnings…
  • learn to show yourself compassion and care (through letter writing, morning pages, tarot, new moon / full moon rituals…)
  • connect with other women in a monthly Zoom call (*optional participation)


sign up for $26/month (no contract, opt out anytime)
or check out other passes for savings…


here’s what women in The Search for Self have to say…

“The Search for Self is a gift I gave to myself that reminds me to prioritize ME through self-reflection, expression, and creativity that I didn’t realize was missing in my life. It challenges me to dive deep into the dark corners I’ve been great at ignoring and has brought to light a much-needed new self-narrative focused on self-compassion, kindness, care, and love.”
-Daniela



“Being a part of the Search for Self nudges me to set aside time to connect with myself, with ideas, and with others. I can enter into these connections in ways that are familiar and comfortable or I can choose to step outside of my defaults and explore new thinking and understanding.”
– Kim



“Lainie has this ability to hear a story and not provide judgement. She embraces all that it is and asks questions that further the desire to go deeper, even to the darkest parts we might not want to go. Lainie provides a safe space to unpack it all. You’ll be asking yourself, why didn’t I start this sooner?”
-Becky


I love it, how do I sign up?



The Search for Self might be the adventure for you…

…if you like beautiful and meandering processes. You know that true learning, the kind that changes how you see the world, takes time. You need to find your own way and make your own choices. And you need the privacy and space to do this on your own. You’ll connect with others if you need inspiration or a feeling of connection. You don’t need or want others to hold you accountable.



I wish I had time for this… 

You are incredibly driven and get things done when it comes to others.  Imagine what could happen if you put that same care and commitment towards yourself.

You love thinking and learning because you know its potential for change.  Imagine what you could learn if you turned that curiosity inward.

You are incredibly reflective, always looking for meaning and connection.  Imagine if you could use your skills to find those things for yourself.



The Search for Self is a way into your stories. It’s that supportive nudge you need to finally move forward differently.  It’s time for your heart to feel at ease and to strengthen the relationships in your life.  You’ve likely been searching for awhile…