I’m not sure who I am or what I enjoy anymore…


Psychologists and researchers have known for years that it’s the unpacking of life stories that can bring clarity, growth, and healing to our lives. And yet for many of us, we will do everything to avoid going there. We throw ourselves into our work; it starts to define our lives and who we are. We stay busy. We come up with lots of reasons why we just don’t have the time or mental capacity to do the work. And yet it’s where our power lies. When we string together all of our life experiences, that’s when we can find meaning and move forward. Maybe it’s time to see what is waiting for you…



The Search for Self is a private website filled with materials to explore your life story. Go in when you have time for it, choose what interests you, and see where it leads. The last thing you need is a whole bunch of stuff to do. Everything here is short and sweet, yet deep. Writing activities to spark memories. Reflective journaling prompts to delve deeper into your life experiences to gain insights. Fun, creative activities to learn more about yourself. The Search for Self is a place to reconnect with who you are at heart.

I don’t have time for anything else right now,
my days already feel like a blur

Between balancing work, home, your partner, kids… spending time on you probably doesn’t happen.  Or if it does, you likely feel guilty about it. But you’re feeling stretched, tired, and just getting through your days. On the surface, everyone thinks you’re doing great, but you know different. You know that you have some deeper work to do. You just need a place to start that feels do-able.


here’s how it works…

  • access new materials added monthly to our private website (creative activities, writing prompts, excerpts from books, articles, talks… all paired with reflective prompts). Monthly collections are based on central themes related to the human experience: time, roots, beginnings…
  • learn to show yourself compassion and care (through letter writing, morning pages, tarot, new moon / full moon rituals…)
  • connect with other women on their journeys and hear their stories. We meet monthly through Zoom.


sign up for $26/month (no contract, opt out anytime)
or check out other passes for savings…


here’s what women in The Search for Self have to say…

“The Search for Self is a gift I gave to myself that reminds me to prioritize ME through self-reflection, expression, and creativity that I didn’t realize was missing in my life. It challenges me to dive deep into the dark corners I’ve been great at ignoring and has brought to light a much-needed new self-narrative focused on self-compassion, kindness, care, and love.”
-Daniela



“Being a part of the Search for Self nudges me to set aside time to connect with myself, with ideas, and with others. I can enter into these connections in ways that are familiar and comfortable or I can choose to step outside of my defaults and explore new thinking and understanding.”
– Kim



“Lainie has this ability to hear a story and not provide judgement. She embraces all that it is and asks questions that further the desire to go deeper, even to the darkest parts we might not want to go. Lainie provides a safe space to unpack it all. You’ll be asking yourself, why didn’t I start this sooner?”
-Becky




The Search for Self might be the adventure for you…

…if you like beautiful and meandering processes. You know that true learning, the kind that changes how you see the world, takes time. You need to find your own way and make your own choices. And you need the privacy and space to do this on your own. You’ll connect with others if you need inspiration or a feeling of connection. You don’t need or want others to hold you accountable.



I wish I had time for this… 

You are incredibly driven and get things done when it comes to others.  Imagine what could happen if you put that same care and commitment towards yourself.

You love thinking and learning because you know its potential for change.  Imagine what you could learn if you turned that curiosity inward.

You are incredibly reflective, always looking for meaning and connection.  Imagine if you could use your skills to find those things for yourself.



The Search for Self is a way into your stories. It’s that supportive nudge you need to finally move forward differently.  It’s time for your heart to feel at ease.  You’ve likely been searching for awhile…